{"id":14548,"date":"2020-05-20T09:00:19","date_gmt":"2020-05-20T09:00:19","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/glohs.hk\/?p=14548"},"modified":"2020-08-03T08:26:43","modified_gmt":"2020-08-03T08:26:43","slug":"she-believed-she-could-so-she-did","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/glohs.hk\/zh-hant\/she-believed-she-could-so-she-did\/","title":{"rendered":"She Believed She Could So She Did"},"content":{"rendered":"\n
By Janice Leong<\/p>\n\n\n\n
Motherhood is not only the proverbial hardest job you\u2019ll ever love, as the slogan goes \u2013 it is also the hardest job you\u2019ll ever do. I love my son more than I ever thought possible and am lucky to have a kind, healthy child, but the reality is that motherhood is tough, especially when you are on your own.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
Pregnancy and postpartum can make women feel so vulnerable and too often the focus is what pregnancy did to her body rather than focus on what her perfect body just did. Here we sit, creating, nourishing the future and we are diminished to \u201cbaby weight\u201d. Every woman should know her power and not succumb to society\u2019s demanding ideals. <\/p>\n\n\n\n<\/figure>\n\n\n\n
It can be hard to love yourself in a world that doesn\u2019t want you to; every advert for makeup suggests that your face isn\u2019t good enough without its \u2018brightening\u2019 \u2018illuminating\u2019 power. We have \u2018spanx\u2019 to smooth out our awful, unacceptable lumps; life hacks on how to be \u2018better,\u2019 \u2018funnier\u2019, \u2018sexier\u2019 etc and magazines full of tips on how to \u2018look\u2019 or \u2018be\u2019 slimmer whilst bombarding you with images of models who all conform to a homogeneous, narrow representation of beauty. It can be so easy to fall into a self-loathing trap, where you never think you are good enough as you are. Women are marginalized; our concerns and issues trivialized at every opportunity that it can sometimes feel like a relentless battle to ignore the voices in our heads that tell us that we are inferior.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
When someone says \u2018you look cute today\u2019 we almost instinctively reply with a negative comment; \u2018oh, this is just an old dress,\u2019 or \u2018no, I look like shit!\u2019 When something we do at work is positively acknowledged we feel duty bound to slip in some put down about how \u2018it was nothing\u2019 and \u2018could be better to be honest\u2019. It\u2019s as if we don\u2019t believe that we are worthy of recognition for the amazing things we do which I think is bullshit.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<\/figure>\n\n\n\n
I am confident. I think a lot of it comes from surrounding myself with positive people who build me up and tell me that they love me all the time. If my friends are feeling down, I make it my business to cheer them up and vice versa. Confidence isn\u2019t about being happy and dancing about in your underwear every minute of the day \u2013 instead, it\u2019s more to do with knowing that you might feel sad sometimes but that you can deal with it because you are tough, strong and brave. It is knowing that there is so much more to you than just being beautiful but still believing that you are a hot goddess who deserves someone to get that and love every inch of you. It isn\u2019t easy to be confident all the time but it is important to try.<\/em><\/p>\n\n\n\n
Confidence is about ignoring the bullshit that thinks it knows you better than you know yourself. Confidence is about doing what you want, being yourself and liking who that person is. It is laughing at your own jokes because you know you are hilarious. It is checking yourself out in the mirror because your hair looks awesome. It is handing out compliments because you want the world to feel amazing, without expecting or needing any back because you don\u2019t require validation from anyone. Confidence is doing you, exactly as you want to with no apologies or fear.<\/em><\/p>\n\n\n\n
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